LOVE : The Mystery

Love is a small word of Four letters L,O,V,E but explaining the meaning of love is quite an arduous task. In this world, Every-one has experienced it, the joy of loving someone and also the joy of being loved by someone but on the other side, there are some people who had some regrettable experience in this. I am going to discuss about love in this blog. I am writing this blog in a very general way so that many of my readers can associate to this

ABOUT NATURE OF LOVE

Love has different feelings which leads to different nature of it. To explain distinct nature of love, Let’s take an example of a young man of around 28 years. So for him there are different nature of love towards his mom, dad, wife, son, daughter, friends, work colleague etc.

He loves his mom a lot and his daughter too but the kind of love or say nature of love is totally different but the core is same. Kind of Love towards his wife, GF or say ex-GF is else very different, having a wife is like a responsibility, taking care of her and understanding her are the things that is required while having a GF is more like fun as you are in the path of understanding her. It’s like the 1^st stage of having life partner, if you clear it then your GF becomes your wife and by this the nature of you love towards her also changes.

·     IMPORTANCE OF LOVE

Love is an essential part in anyone’s life. Anyone without the presence of love is like an earth without water. Love is a feeling which makes a person happy and joyful. Love holds a majestic power with in it, when a man reach his home after a long hardworking day at work most of the time he have headache, tension and other physical and mental stress but after seeing his family, her loved ones whom he loves so much waiting for him, smiling all he way and thanking him

(directly or indirectly) for all the hard work he do for them.

When a person wished by his family and friends on his birthday, he become so much happy and blessed due to the feeling of being grateful of being loved.

“Grateful” that’s a very powerful word which comes from “Gratitude” and Gratitude is a feeling which is an inseparable part of love. When you show your love and care for poor people by helping them, you will get instant gratification which makes you feel grateful.

·      HOW LOVE HAPPENS?

A very interesting question to answer for. As we already discussed about the different nature of love, so we know different aspects of it. According to my experience and whom I talked on this topic, Love happens in different way for different nature of love. For example, Love towards our mother is involuntary and instinctive and same thing from mother perspective also. While a good relationship with dad, siblings and relatives is automatic, we don’t need any reason for it to happen.

The only relationship and love that we human make ourselves or responsible for it, is Friends and friendship is earn by respecting each other. Respect is the first step in any relationship, if you don’t respect others then it is difficult for you to make good real friends. Friendship with time increases and bonds becomes more stronger and leads to love.

Readers might get confused by my last statement that is “friendship leads to love”, many of my reader can misinterpret this as a “same sex love” thing. This is totally different, remember what we discussed in the starting Different nature of love, a man can love other man-it doesn’t mean that he is homo person it is just the different nature of it which consist of respect, sympathy, empathy and understanding etc.

So, how love happens?  This question cannot be answered in a general way as love has diversified nature but the core in every nature is same that is “RESPECT”

·      IS LOVE REAL OR JUST RAGING HORMONES?

Now coming to the topic of Relationship. Nowadays, there is a trend of having BF/GF, it is considered as “HIP” among the youth. Due to the presence of social media through which people can connect to anyone in the world, Patch-up and Break-up become quite frequent. According to science, there is some chemical reaction that take place in our brain during this time, in simple language it’s the Raging hormones. All of these feeling of attraction towards opposite sex cause by the rage of hormones coursing through the body.

We have to rethink the core definition of loving someone, love is not a means of having sex.

It is the emotional connect between two people. It means sharing the essence of life, souls of each other, joys, sorrows, happiness, love and most important responsibilities and respect.

Many of my fellow youngsters, most of the time got into the relationship without rethinking about the core meaning of love, without analysing what really love means they just attracted towards each other due to enraged hormones and soon after some time it ends because the essence of love was missing between them from the starting.  So, it’s and advise to all the youth to analyse first whether all the essence is present between them, if yes then go ahead enjoy the beauty of love with your partner, and if not then please stop yourself and rethink because if the essence of love is missing then relationship going to end soon with so much pain